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The Luxury of Technology for Army Wives

Being a FRG (Family Readiness Group) leader during my husband’s first deployment, I was able to talk with the wives of the unit.  Some had great attitudes and others did not.  I had amazing women that dealt with the deployment gracefully and others that could find nothing but fault with everything!

We all handle deployments differently.  I tend to feel sorry for those women that find it so hard to make it through a deployment that all they can do is complain.  Don’t get me wrong — I don’t think that there is any spouse that never complains at some point during a deployment.  It’s the type of complaining that makes the difference.  Fielding questions like, “Why haven’t I gotten and e-mail from my husband today?” was almost laughable.   

I think back to all of the Army wives that came before us.  They did not have the technology that we have today.  Even just a short time ago during Desert Storm in 1990, we did not have access to the internet the way we do now.  That is why I am so thankful for the phone calls, e-mails and letters that I do get from my husband.

A dear friend of Mom’s told me about having her fiancee go off to war during Viet Nam.  She said that months would go by before she would be fortunate to get a letter from her soldier.  Each and ever letter was precious to her.  She did not get any e-mails, video conference calls, or phone calls.  Thankfully, he came home and they have been married for over 35 years.

I met two wonderful ladies at a luncheon.  Their husband’s were both retired soldiers who served in World War II and Korea.  Once again, letters were the only way to communicate.  One of the ladies told me about how before her husband left, they found out that she was expecting.  He didn’t get to meet his first child until she was over a year old.  That was also the time that she became pregnant with their next child and he was deployed again.  He missed that birth too.

So why am I so thankful for technology — I get at least one phone call a week from my husband, e-mails almost daily, and letters when he finds something cool he wants to send the kids.  So if you are an Army wife going through a deployment, be grateful for all the “luxury of technology” that we have.