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It’s so hard to be away from home!

People often ask me if I like being an Army wife.  And overall, I do… but sometimes it can be so hard to be away from home.

I have a close-knit family.  I talk to my sister almost daily.  She lives in Nevada and there is an eight-hour time change between us.  But every morning on her way to work, she calls me.  Sometimes we get 5 minutes or, if I’m lucky and she’s stuck in traffic, I get 30 minutes.  It is the best time of my day.  Even my kids know that when the phone rings at that time of day, it’s my time with my sister.

But if the events that happened 10 years ago were just a bit different, I may not have my sister to talk too.  She was driving to work when a shift worker was on his way home t-boned her vehicle.  He was drunk and unharmed.  My sister, on the other hand, had broken every rib on her left side, a broken pelvic bone and a ruptured spleen.  Once in surgery, they realized that she had bleeding in her chest.  When they went to repair it, the aorta tore away from her heart.  As the doctor told us, “she flat lined for 93 seconds and we stitched like hell”.  Thankfully, she survived.  She has scars physically and we all have mental scars from that day.  This is when the lifestyle that my husband and I choose is hard.

At the time, I was a newlywed getting ready to celebrate my first Christmas with my husband.  We were living in Alaska.  It took me 24 hours to get to the hospital.  After my sister was in good and stable condition, one of the nurses told me that their biggest fear is that we would not get there in time.  I can’t imagine my sister dying, let alone, dying without family with her. 

Why am I sharing this story… well, twice in the last few months, I’ve been here in England and my family (biological and Army) could have used my help.  Help with meals, child care, hugs… but from here all I can do is pray.  Dont’ get me wrong — I pray A LOT.  I’m a Christian and believe in the power of prayer.  But sometimes when all you can do is pray, you feel helpless.

This is when your Army family can be such a wonderful help and why I always urge spouses to get involved in as many aspects of the Army as you can.  Our coffee group has a meals committee that makes meals for families that have a new baby, just moved, emergency sickness, etc.  Also, because we have all become friends, we are there to watch children for each other when there is an emergency.  (Like the 1:00am phone call from my friend in labor!)  Get involved so that you have a support system in place.  I say prayers of thanksgiving for the Army family that I’ve become a part of.  They may not be able to replace my sister, mom or dad, but they make a really great substitute!