Hurray!! My husband is home!!! Now what?!

It is the most wonderful time when my husband returns home.  It’s a great time for all military families!  I know that he is safe and he is able to become part of our family again.  Now the hard part starts!

I have been working on my battlemind skills to make this transition easier, but it is still work.  No different then when you are first married and learning those little quirks that you didn’t know prior to living together.  The first thing that reminded me he was home was when at 2 AM I got up to use the toilet and the seat was up!  Unfortunately, I didn’t notice this fact until my rear end landed in the toilet water!  EEWWWWW!

I will have to admit, I’ve been on edge during this transition.  I keep trying to stick to my normal routine, but he’s there!  And sometimes in the way.  We are trying to get on track on how things are done in the household.  Some things have remained the same, but others have changed.  The kids are all a year older and he isn’t use to their new behaviors.  I think it’s hardest with the little one.  Since she just turned 2, a lot has changed in the year he was gone.  She just stopped using the bottle when he left and was not completely feeding herself.  Now, she can feed herself with no help.  Although, she has to be reminded to use a utensil!  My oldest has begun to read and Daddy has just learned that he can not spell in front of her!  LOL  And our son, almost 4, only wants to play with Daddy.  The little man has also become the whiner of the bunch.  With Daddy just home, he is not ready to completely start disciplining them.  I don’t blame him.  He doesn’t want to come home and be perceived as the “bad guy”.  So for now, that’s still my job.

Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy my soldier is home.  It’s just a hectic time.  The other factor in this reunion is that we are moving in December.  That gives us two months to decide what we are keeping and not keeping.  Normally this isn’t a big deal, but this move is taking us overseas!  That means three separate packing times — one for household goods, one for hold baggage and the other for storage.  I’m sure this move will give me so many stories to tell!


5 responses to this post.

  1. Posted by Terra on October 14, 2008 at 6:50 pm

    Good Luck with your packing and move! Be sure to keep me posted! 😉 –Ter


  2. Yeah, I bet your husband is both really happy to see the kids and also really sad about how much he has missed, so you will have to be patient and kind — I hope he can express it in ways that are OK for both of you. No parent wants to miss a second of his kids’ childhood, even when he is doing an important job and knows it.

    Lots of luck to both of you!


    PS. Re the packing — remember in these economic hard times how many people need basic things like clothes, blankets and whatnot, even — or particularly — on a military base. That makes it easier to give stuff away, knowing that other folks will appreciate it.


  3. Posted by Cheryl on October 15, 2008 at 1:36 pm

    Learn the phonetic alphabet and spell the Army way ~ could be fun for both of you and it will take the kids a couple of years to figure it all out. Just one way of coping …
    Ref your move, you’ll be surprised at what you won’t need over there and what you’ll want to buy locally. As TR said, those in need on post will be very appreciative of your left behinds.
    Good luck~


  4. I’m so happy to hear your husband is home! It’s always a blessing and a challenge all at the same time. I fall into the same issues if my husband is gone for a month. We have to train them to things OUR way all over again!


  5. Posted by The Army Wife on October 20, 2008 at 11:48 am

    YAY! Congrats! That first couple of months home is always the hardests — it was for us (and we don’t even have kids! Yet!) and I know it is for others. Keep your chin up!

    And good luck with the move!


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